Humans are social beings and relating to each other is deeply ingrained in our evolutionary history, and our psyche, connection is survival. Despite our need to be social, interacting with other people is anything but easy and straightforward, especially with our closest and most intimate partners.
Like the cresting of a wave, intimate relationships can bring us to the height of heights, and then plunge us into the depths. Most of us feel helpless in the face of these emotional waves. Why wouldn’t we, very few of us have been taught how to surf them. Perhaps even more importantly, most of us forget that under the waves, the ocean remains calm.
It is possible to learn to surf relational waves, and connect with the calm below the surface. Are you ready to ride?
I offer relationship coaching, for those in partnership, leaving partnership, out of partnership, seeking partnership, and learning to be a partner to themselves. We will use the approach of following relationship as a path for growth and personal discovery. As you walk this path, we will also work on developing a solid set of tools for your journey.
Relationships often seem natural at the beginning, during that time when our bodies and minds are flooded with feel-good endorphins. As time moves on, though, challenges emerge and many of these stem from suites of influences we may not even recognize. Childhood experiences, experiences in other relationships and, perhaps most importantly, experiences that stem from our relationship with ourselves, begin to get in the way. On top of that, very few of us received any training around how to navigate these challenges once they begin, leaving us too often defaulting to blame, of our partners and ourselves. Relationship coaching facilitates exploration of these blocks, increased awareness and understanding of your beliefs around relationship, your communication style, and above all the empowerment that comes from personal responsibility and self awareness.
As your relationship coach, my primary objective is to help empower you to tackle the barriers that get in your way as you work to build close and meaningful connections. Through support and challenge, and your own commitment and hard work, we will together create a safe and close container from which you can regain a sense of calm, open-hearted determination in pursuit of your relationship goals.